Anger, in itself, is helpful. It is a feeling that tells us something is wrong and gives us the opportunity to do something about it. So, when we feel angry it’s important to figure out what the problem is and deal with it accordingly. Sounds simple enough doesn’t it?
So why, then, is anger usually seen in such a negative way?
There are 2 main reasons:
- Sometimes we express our anger inappropriately and hurt those around us.
- Sometimes the anger we feel is out of proportion to the event, causing us to overreact to a situation.
If we want to protect our relationships with loved ones, family, friends and colleagues, it is important to learn to express our anger cleanly and clearly. In this way problems can be resolved, and we don’t hurt other people and/or compound the problem by overreacting. I specialise in anger management and work with both individuals and couples for whom anger is causing problems. I also work with parents and teachers of children with problem anger.